Things drastically change after high school and after college. All of a sudden we are thrown into the real world and we are faced with modern day Darwinism, known as capitalism. The things we look for in a partner change drastically as well, especially for young adults in large urban areas.
I was reminded of the idea that “responsibility is sexy” during a discussion with a friend last night after she had a very good date with an individual that she may be interested in. However, the person she went out with seems to have some behaviors that have caused my friend to be apprehensive. The person in question seems to be a fun and nice individual, but hasn’t grown into the responsibility that his age would dictate. Therefore, my friend is conflicted. Had this individual not been stuck in his “college years” with some of his behavior, this topic between my friend and I may not have even come up.
Responsibility can be conveyed in many ways, but being responsible with money shows several attributes to others including, ambition, self-control, and foresight. It’s important to look at each of these three characteristics and see how they can appeal to the opposite sex.
- Ambition – Responsible spending and saving will open up all kinds of opportunities in the future. While the appearance of wealth may be the ambition of many, it is those that have real wealth that have the upper hand in making significant life choices (a new house, having another child, retiring early).
- Self-control – We live in a consumption driven society. If you are able to make sacrifices, remain focused on your goals, and not give into the marketing machine known as the US of A, then you have mastered self-control. Think of how attractive you are to a partner when you show that you are capable of making the necessary sacrifices requires for those big life challenges (marriage, raising children).
- Foresight – saving for a rainy day may not seem fun or all that sexy, but having the foresight to do so ensures that you are prepared for life’s little hiccups (and there will be hiccups along the way). Is there a better way to show someone you care about them then by confidently saying in a time of need, “everything will be fine” because you have saved for just such an occasion?
One’s attractiveness to the opposite sex can stem from many different characteristics, intelligence, appearance, sense of humor, etc. As we get older, certain things enter onto that list of characteristics including, security, stability, and responsibility. The former characteristics usually are qualities that we are blessed with by good genes, but the latter list is something everyone can work towards. Everyone can be responsible with money; it just takes a bit of effort. Making the decision to be responsible is the first step you have to make. And really, who wouldn’t want to be responsible, because responsibility… is sexy.